Somewhere along the way, we no longer need to be controlled because we have learned the rules and we respect them, and if we don`t, we will do a great job of punishing ourselves. It is possible to free ourselves from the structure to which we have become so accustomed by concluding 4 new agreements with ourselves. “Find the courage to ask questions and express what you really want. Communicate as clearly as possible with others to avoid misunderstanding, sadness and drama. If you always strive to do your best, no matter what we`re talking about — school, work, parenting, fitness — your chances of success increase dramatically. Mark Twain, Speech to the Savage Club, July 6, 1907 “When others tell us something, we make assumptions, and if they tell us nothing, we make assumptions to meet our need to know and replace the need to communicate. Even if we hear something and don`t understand, we make assumptions about what it means, and then we believe in assumptions…